Just. Shut. It. Down.

Just. Shut. It. Down.

I think for the next several weeks, I will not read blogs, interviews, articles, or engage in conversations that tell me what I have to do in regard to my writing career. I’m going to just. shut. it. down. Actually, the writing and publishing world are starting to feel like reality TV. There’s the constant barrage that sounds something like the following:

You must do this to…

If you don’t do this, you will never…

You should always…

Rule #1 says…

Rule #17 says…

Those are the rules…

Only a few people are…

Don’t ever…

Hmm. Several years ago, I was going through a painful divorce and had to find housing for myself and three small daughters. I happened upon a tiny rental bungalow and when I told the landlord the reason for my move, she looked at me and said, “You need to stay together for your children. You can divorce him when they grow up.”  My oldest daughter was 5 1/2, my youngest was 1 year old. Needlesss to say, I did not rent from that woman. The point is, that was her reality. She truly believed the children would be better off. My reality? I was not going to live a life  that would ultimately teach my daughters to de-value themselves. So, I left. Never looked back.

Just because someone says something, doesn’t make it true or accurate…or right for you. Trust yourself. Look deep inside and follow your gut and your heart. If you must listen to rules, how about these?

Rule #1 says believe in yourself and your unique gifts…

Rule #17 stay true to yourself….

Yes, this is hard to do with so many naysayers trying to disprove your beliefs, but if you just. shut. it. down. you won’t hear them.


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Wonderful post! I can’t agree more with what you said about all the rules. When I first joined a local writing group (it has since disbanded), a multi-published author with Harlequin who belonged to the group told me I couldn’t have a dog in my manuscript because her latest release had the same type of dog, that it was a rule that you couldn’t use the same type of dog as someone who’d already published a story with the same breed in it. I was such a newbie, I actually asked other writers if they’d heard of this rule. I… Read more »


Mary, your timing on this blog could not have come at a better time! Thanks for this sage bit of wisdom and great reminder.

Amber Dane

Thank you for such a good post. Talk about timing. I’ve been posting affirmations all over my writing area to remind me of being true to self…Thanks for sharing.

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And the wild man runs away with your shoes…………

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